Growing in Generosity

Tensions Rising? How Giving Thanks Brings Peace

A “thank you” a day keeps the doctor away? Science tells us it’s possible. According to a number of studies conducted in recent years, the practice of gratitude has a positive effect on our mental and physical wellbeing, including better sleep, mood, and immunity, as well as decreased depression, anxiety, chronic pain, and blood pressure.

That’s good news as we head into a season focused on giving thanks. But challenging things accompany this season too. As we gather with friends and family, particularly in the wake of a fraught political season, passions run deep, emotions run strong, and common ground can feel shaky. Practicing gratitude together may just be the antidote for hard feelings and harsh words. Here’s how you can focus on giving thanks and pursuing peace in the next few months.

Count your blessings. French bishop Jean-Baptiste Massieu once said, “Gratitude is the memory of the heart.” Focus on those memories by telling stories of joy, the kindness of others, and help received along the way. This puts the spotlight on giving thanks together, not our differences of opinion.

Get active with your gratitude. Put hands and feet to your thankfulness by serving together during the holiday season. Set an extra place (or more!) at your Thanksgiving table and invite college students who can’t make it home for the holiday. Give to someone in need. Volunteer at a local nonprofit as a family. Shared purpose shifts our perspective from our differences to the people and causes that truly matter.

Think forward. Leaving a gift in your will or estate plan to causes close to your heart is a lasting expression of gratitude. The holidays provide a wonderful opportunity to talk about this with your family, reflect together with thankfulness, and move forward in peace and unity.

According to author and teacher Eckhart Tolle, “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Practicing gratitude together diminishes divisions and amplifies what’s good and true. The effort is worth it.